順著天賦做事，逆著個性做人

我是個很幸運的人，因為我經常遇到貴人，不管這些貴人們曾經如何對我，我總能直接或間接的從他們身上汲取到一些經驗! 對此，我也由衷的感謝! 當然，標題的這句話也是從貴人們身上獲得的寶貴經驗!

最近我常會想起這句話，"順著天賦做事，逆著個性做人"，從字面上解釋，就是發揮自己的長才，修飾或隱藏自己在個性上的缺點，使得為人處事都能圓滿! 或許會有人說，那不就是偽裝? 虛偽? 其實不盡然。

舉例來說，我的專長就是溝通，所以，我就應該好好發揮這個長處，使得人、事、物得以透過溝通、協調進而圓滿! 這就是 "順著天賦做事"!

而我的個性其實很懶散，從小被管到大的我，很討厭被約束，我也很討厭去約束別人! 因為 "己所不欲，勿施於人"! 但，當我的工作付予任務，即時有千百個不願意，為了工作，為了群體利益，我就會壓抑著自己在個性上的特質，想辦法去完成任務! 這就是 "逆著個性做人"!

當然，有人曾經問我，"何苦來哉? 這樣對待自己能有什麼好處?" 剛開始我總會試著去說明，後來就只是笑著不回應了。乍看之下，這樣做的確對自己沒什麼好處，做得汗流浹背，別人嫌到口水亂噴!

我的理由如下:
  1. 對自己負責，也對工作有交待，心安理得。
  2. 如果事情能順利做完，也對群體有正面的助益，雖然知道會很苦，何不試著樂觀面對? 做起來也開心。
  3. 有些事，在當下會很苦、很難熬! 但，咬牙撑過後，反而會有一番不同的感受，結果，我又成長了。
過往的歷練也驗證了這句話的價值! 我因為這句話，受益不少! 至少，當別人在批評草莓世代時，我很慶幸自己的抗壓性在不同階段都能每況愈上! 只是我還是沒有做得很好! 至少，目前還是! 還需要多努力、多加油!

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